five rules of love (12/12/5)

George W will probably never find his, but I happily have discovered my own WMD (Woman of My Dreams) and feel it only right to share with those men less fortunate than I, the secrets to finding and keeping a relationship. Before finding "her", I spent much too much of my life committed to women who proved themselves, beyond a doubt, NOT to be "her" and after comparing notes with my sweetheart (apparently many of the men of her past were not exactly the Don Juans they thought themselves to be either), I've come up with a list of five rules of love I hope will help those out there in their continued search for life's meaning and to help them towards one day experiencing for themselves the power of real love.
 

1. If you say you're in love with one woman, don't have sex with any other women but her.


This may seem obvious, but from what I've come to understand, this "committed to one while getting your rocks off with another" thing is still a fairly common occurrence. If you ever hope to stay in a relationship with one woman, if it matters to you at all if she loves and trusts you, then stop screwing around on her!


2. Be with the woman you're with.


You have both chosen each other over everyone else and that should mean something. If, let's say, you two go to a party together, stay together. Ditching her at the door in order to try and pick up on other women there not only will severely weaken your relationship with the woman you came with but it will make you look like a schmuck to everybody else.


3. Words like "we", "us" and "ours" have meaning. Learn them.


If you've committed yourself to one person, don't treat it as a prison sentence. Think of her as your partner, your team mate, someone on your side. You should look at her happiness as your happiness and your couch and CD collection as hers (come on, it's just stuff for Christ's sakes!).


4. Don't pine over the women you dated before.

Their gone, it's over and it's time to move on. And even if the memories still bother you, NEVER think it's a good idea to share this pain with the woman you're with now. She doesn't want to know, and shouldn't be put in the uncomfortable position of competing with some Ghost of Bad Love Past. Keep it up and you'll end up with another woman to miss.

5. Love her!


She's the one in your life! Show interest in what she says, be appreciative of what she does, care about what she feels, let her know how much her touch pleases you and be eager to please her whenever you can. Duh!

Now I know (from sad experience) that doing these things alone doesn't make for a successful relationship, and only when both parties feel the same love for each other and are happily willing to fully commit to each other can a relationship ever hope to be real and long lasting. But now that I know that true love exists and that such a relationship is possible, I encourage ye seekers of love to hang in there and to never give up...

for your "her" is still out there and she's really, really worth it.